Here’s the Thing about Feminism

A lot of you seem to be quite confused about what feminism is. So I’ll just say this right now — feminism is not extremism.

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Feminism isn’t about getting mad that there are pink Legos. Pink Legos are awesome. Feminism is about getting mad that pink Legos are marketed to girls while superhero Legos are marketed to boys because what if my boy wants to play with pink or my girl wants to play with superheroes? Feminism is about marketing toys to kids.

Feminism isn’t about telling girls not to like princesses and makeup and dresses. It’s about giving them options to like dragons and camouflage and slingshots as well. It’s about letting them make their own choices, which is nearly impossible if the toys marketed to them are only princesses and makeup and dresses. Feminism is about choice.

Feminism isn’t only about girls and women. It’s also about giving boys the options to like princesses and makeup and dresses, along with dragons and camouflage and slingshots. Feminism is about being yourself.

Feminism isn’t about making women feel bad for choosing to be stay-at-home mothers, or by cooking their partner meals, or doing the household chores. It’s about eliminating the expectation that women are required to to those things, and giving them the opportunity to say no if they want to. Feminism is about letting women choose to stay at home or join the workforce, and it’s about respecting and admiring them no matter what they choose.

Feminism isn’t about expecting a woman with no qualifications to make more money than a man with qualifications. It’s about expecting fair and equal opportunities for women with qualifications, and pay for women worth it. A woman who does the same work as a man should receive the same pay; a woman who does less work than a man should receive less pay; a woman who does more work than a man should receive more pay. Feminism is about equality.

Feminism isn’t about putting men down; it’s about raising women up to be equal with men, and then raising them both up together. It’s not about overshadowing men; it’s about taking their hands and walking side by side with them.

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What is feminism to you? What have I forgotten? Let’s break down the extremism and get back to real feminism!